Failing Adults!
What I have noticed about Rosemary being caught in this bad situation is the adults around her that are failing as adults. Basically they are letting Rosemary make her own decisions and her mother started that back about when she was 5 years old. She would say its Rosemary's decision. That takes all the blame off her mother. That's is not how you parent!!!
Elaine Phillips Peterson
A little background of Elaine. Leaving a trail of destruction all her life.
1st Marriage. Divorce and Bankruptcy
2rd Marriage Divorce and Bankruptcy.
3rd Marriage to me. Elaine filed and divorced me after I started finding out who she was. I had put her on the same savings account for our wedding. I just kept depositing my tips from work and when I went to take the money out after the wedding, it was all gone. She took it and said we needed it! For what!? I was paying for everything else. Not sure what she needed it for. Several $1000's, Gone! I had to rush the gift checks to the bank so the check I wrote for the reception did not bounce. Then letters from the pawn shop, letters from the bank that the vehicle loan payment was late. She said she would make the payment for the vehicle she "needed". Also still owning on the student loan after 20 years. She got mad when I asked her to contribute one month to the Xcel Bill. I have a feeling her previous husbands found out who she was and bailed.
4th Marriage to Bill Peterson I'm pretty sure Bill pays for everything and does everything around the house because I did. Obviously this is his first marriage and does what his wife tells him including sleeping in his own room. What is that showing to Rosemary what a marriage is about??
Now here is this situation:
1) First mom lets her make own decisions about going to Dads and his family events. I asked about deciding to go to school or not. Mom said that is different. Well, guess what,. Rosemary hasn't gone to school in two years and will not graduate. Way to go Mom!! Is this part of moms plan? Why does Munchausen by Proxy come up so much in conversation??
Elaine's Family.
Elaines Family, like her mother, place all of Rosemary's problems on Rosemary. Her mother is fine, Rosemary is the problem. Her mother. Carole Phillips is part of the problem. My daughter is perfect!
The Schools.
The schools ( mostly the staff at La Crosse Central High), have been appeasing Rosemary and her mother for 2 years. They finally gave her mother a truancy ticket that her mother complained about. Even though I was listed as Rosemary's dad at the school, they never did contact me about Rosemary not attending school. Her mother only always said we are working on it. I finally called school about Rosemary and they said there is not a Rosemary listed. I asked about her nick name and she is listed under that. Cricketl! I am a terrible dad for not calling her Cricket. Just more appeasing the child but never being adults.
I called April of 2024 and talked with Zach Wolford who said he was concerned about Rosemary not attending school in person or online. He said we can have a meeting in August. I said we need a meeting before summer so we can work on getting a plan together for fall. They called a meeting together in May. Approximately 12 people including Elaine and Bill. They showed because of their "concern". I reminded them all that I insisted on this meeting. The other 8-9 people were school counselors, etc. They are sooo "concerned" too. Less than two weeks before summer break and they started "threatening" a truancy ticket. Did not happen. They talked about Rosemary not having any chance to graduate.
Come August and there was another meeting called. They put together a plan for Rosemary to go swinging everyday and maybe go to the public library or Hy-Vee to walk around. What a great plan!! That will help her graduate? Plan fell through because Rosemary said she did not want to do it and mom would not dream of making her doing anything to stress out Rosemary. It's Rosemary's Decision!
December 2025. There is another meeting held at the school but Rosemary did not want me there so I only listened on the phone for over an hour. They all pleaded with Rosemary about some ideas that they had to get her back to school. Apparently Rosemary just sat there and said little or nothing. Actually she only talks through her ipad. She does not talk because it's her decision and choses not too talk. Her mother and doctors from Gundersen insisted she go to Mary Free Bed in Michigan $1700/day) because her health was failing and they could not figure out why. I said because she lays around and is on her Ipad all day. She was sent to the Rehab hospital because of her "bad health" and they immediately figured out there was nothing wrong with her, including her ability to speak. When I was given a chance to speak I said they have to give her choices of positive things that she has to do, doing nothing is not a choice. I also said that the rehab hospital said to take away the ipad but that would only upset Rosemary and "we cannot upset Rosemary". That has been the problem for 10 years. I like to say "my dad is mean, he makes me brush my teeth".
So now Rosemary has been taken out of La Crosse County (see La Crosse County below) to Viroqua to live at her Aunt Amanda's house and supposedly go to high school there. I had asked her Aunt if I could come and visit Rosemary but was told i could come but it was Rosemary's decision to see me or not. Dad's an emotionalless monster. I guess Rosemary went into school some in Viroqua. The school staff is pretty worthless there too. Last meeting i signed into but was somehow muted from asking any questions, they were making suggestions to Rosemary how she can get back to school and she just did not have any interest in complying. Worthless adults.